He had been hitched. I became solitary. We’d an affair—and we never ever also kissed. It absolutely was a yearlong psychological event, a nightmare where everyone cries and no body comes. To know why i acquired as a relationship that metastasized—and remained in it for months—I’ve needed to appear honestly inside my back ground and alternatives. Plus some of it ain’t pretty. I was getting over a five-month bout of bronchitis that often kept me wheezing and crying when I started talking to Josh (not his real name.